As a fellow creator, I have met many creatives who struggle with people-pleasing. Believe me, I’ve been there too.

The desire to please others is not a bad thing; we’re all wired to seek acceptance, approval, and accountability from one another.

Now what makes people pleasing toxic is when we begin to avoid conflict, prioritise people’s needs when we are running on empty, while forfeiting our own authenticity and authority for the sake of seeming peaceable.

That’s a total red flag.

**People-pleasing saps your creative energy, and it’s time to put a stop to it.

Here are three ways we can start:

1. Recognise your own worth

You are the only person who will be with you all of the time. It’s critical that you start treating yourself like a treasured best friend. A lot of things will come and go. But you’re here to stay. So put some respect on your name and love yourself.

2. Speak up for yourself

This means it’s time to advocate for yourself and your needs. Your voice matters. And no one can stop you from showing up and speaking up for yourself. No matter who tries to silence or ignore you; vouch for your needs.

3. Set boundaries with urgency

When it comes to your craft and the people you work with, be polite and let them know what your boundaries are as soon as you can. Don’t put it off any longer. This should be done early on in the relationship.

Listen to me, creative one, you have a big heart, but remember, letting go of people-pleasing will help you show up as your best self in the long run.